The submissive has an equal part in responsiblity of the actions and intentions during the scene.
But a DOM cannot be in violation of crossing a boundary that the sub was not even aware of prior to the scene.
Manipulative or vindictive Sub / Bottoms can assert false claims of abuse, misconduct or injury. Always have video taped consent along with written consent forms signed while on video.
Educate Yourself
Most times bondage is played out with a standard scenario when one person is designated as the Dominant (DOM) and the other assumes the role of Submissive (Sub).
The bondage can be a simple set of handcuffs, silk scarves or as complex as stockades or elaborate rope bondage. In the end they all act as mental tools to establish surrender or dominance over one's partner. As explained on the first page; power exchange can be liberating and open the door to creative and sensual play.
When a person cedes their position of power to their trusted partner under clearly negotiated rules it allows each partner to act at their fullest to fulfill the other partner's needs, desires, fantasies and more. Having taken great care, time and patience to delineate the boundaries, desires, fantasies, likes, dislikes, no matter what they are allows a D/s couple to share a much more fulfilling relationship than a "normal vanilla" couple who rarely discuss any such things. With the facts on the table you are free to play, explore, role play, test boundaries and grow together all in an atmosphere of respect and mutual pleasure.
Some "bad words" that would massively insult a person in the general public are a total turn on to hear during play. Hair pulling, mild spanking, etc. are common components of people's play montage. A DOM calling his sub a whore, slut, etc. is commonly part of the play. Of course it is part of play, in the world outside the DOM treats his sub with respect and courtesy. The secret that they share; the words written on her butt with Sharpie are their little turn on just out of sight.
Power Exchange Play is a very popular way for people who are forced to be in charge every day under high stress and aggravation typically enjoy submitting in order to shed the power struggle and just enjoy being with their partner.
Power Exchange Establishes
The DOM ( DOMinant) and sub (submissive)
Many people who have dabbled in the D/s BDSM lifestyle mistakenly believe that a DOM is inherently an ogre who barks demands and treats a sub like a doormat. They also commonly believe that a sub has no say, ability to act or any control at all. Neither assumption is true.
A healthy D/s interaction the DOM and sub are equal. Simply put the lines of D and s simplify and make the interaction far more manageable and positive.
DOM & sub Perception Explained
Promoting
Sensual Bondage
& Power Exchange
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